the power of names

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Names have power. Think Rumpelstiltskin. Think YHWH. Think Cats. On my hospital birth certificate, I am “Infant Female Jennings.” In a letter to the US Consular, I am “LeeAnn Ruth Jennings.” On my naturalization certificate, I am “Kimberly Ann Whelan.” …

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sibling rivalry

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  The question came up recently about sibling rivalry in adoptions, and how and when to bring a new child into a family. I shared some thoughts about out experience bringing a new child, M, to our family after adopting …

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real mothers

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I am just a mother of children, gathering in chicks from wandering flocks. - About Last Night, from A Succor for Writing   This quote has wedged itself in my brain.   Non-triads often ask, “Who’s her real mother?” (referring to my girls) …

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my favorite things

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No raindrops on roses or whiskers on kittens here. But these are a few of my favorite things. I follow several blogs through Google Reader. When I like I post, some times I tweet it, other times I star it …

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old yeller

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My mother was a yeller.  I don’t think she was a bad mom.  She did the best she could; I like to believe that we all do the best we can. In fact, in many ways, she was pretty progressive. …

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kimberly newton-john

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Everybody has fantasies. Kids fantasize about what they’ll be when they grow up. Some kids fantasize about being rock stars. When I was a kid, I fantasized that I’d become a famous actress. I used to practice my Johnny Carson …

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a brief introduction to adoption

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Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary, How Does Your Family Tree Grow? My family tree would look something like an Escher drawing. That’s what happens when you’ve been adopted. I’ve got two moms, and two and half dads. I thought I found …

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foster/adoption parenting

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Parenting isn’t easy — biological or otherwise. If you want easy, buy a goldfish; they’re disposable and you can always get another one. And don’t kid yourself that home-made kids are any easier than foster or adopted kids, or that …

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